An elegant house we passed hiking. One can always dream.
Although this two week trip flew by quickly, it was enough time to realize what about the village makes me really happy. To sum it up in one simple word, it is connection. Because my last trip was just two months ago, my return truly felt like coming home. I feel like an important part of the community there; respected due to my ability to speak fluent French, understood as an expat home owner who travels a great distance to be in a place she loves, and someone who makes the effort to connect with people and really listen to them.
I bought my first home in Monflanquin in 2001. Upon my arrival, I consciously chose to speak to everyone who crossed my path, which was not easy for someone who back then did not consider herself an extrovert. When my students started coming to the village for French Language Immersion Camp, a deeper level of connection opened up. Their daily assignment was to interview someone, anyone, in the village about a specific assigned topic. Through my students interviews in the community, I met even more people, and they connected to even more people through me. The local business owners appreciated my students' contribution to village life. Our good will brought real joy and novelty to the village folk, many of whom do not travel or encounter Americans. Impressed with the students efforts to learn and speak French, they praised their language skills lavishly and took the opportunity to teach them about the history of Monflanquin.
So I definitely am in a strong relationship with the village through our shared history. My friends know Bill, Michael, Erin, Daniel and even Maggy. They know my nieces who visited and my cousin Leora. They know about my little great nieces and nephews. They saw me knitting their baby blankets. They comforted me through sickness one difficult summer. A multitude of five hour Sunday lunches allowed me to learn about their personal struggles. They trust me enough to confide in me, and occasionally, I will be the only person that can be trusted with very intimate revelations as my discretion as a non permanent resident makes them feel safe. In this way, my sweet French life gives me an amazing unique gift for which I am profoundly grateful.
Speaking of friends, we made a new friend during this past trip. His name is Bob and lives on the street that intersects ours. Bob passed Bill working in front of the house. Operation Paint Shutters is located there as no garage or back yard exists. Well, Bob, who is American and Bill got to talking. It turns out that the number of coincidences Bob shares with me and Bill is stunning. He even knows one of my friends from high school! We went out to dinner with Bob, gave each other tours of our village homes, and thoroughly enjoyed hanging out. Yes, my sweet French life offers me a new gift, and I graciously accept it. |
Nice history. I am glad that Bob and Bill met.
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